The Performance Trap

Welcome to 31 Days of The Performance Trap


I accepted a challenge to write each day in October, and I will be linking up via The Nester‘s 31 Days website.

I am excited to share my heart and hurts with you in hopes of freeing us from a performance trap so we can live in the freedom of Jesus Christ.

Scroll Down to read Day 1

Click to read the other days – I’ll be adding a link each day!

Day 1 – The Performance Trap (scroll down)

Day 2 – From Big Time to Pee Wee

Day 3 – Flyover the Familiar

Day 4 – My Baby Doesn’t Like You

Day 5 – Have You Seen This View?

Day 6 – Date With Daddy

Day 7 – Performance Tread-Me-Ill

Day 8 – Alarmingly Broken

Day 9 – Your Shoes Are Made For Walking

Day 10 – When Enough Is Enough 

Day 11 – Prayer In Football

Day 12 – Prep With Prayer

Day 13 – Walk Or Swim

Day 14 – Heavenly Handbook

Day 15 – Child’s Play

Day 16 – So Long Self-Sufficiency: Guest Post by Katie Reid

Day 17 – What Will You Use Your Ink To Write?

Day 18 – Childish Beauty

Day 19 – Receive, Believe, and Go

Day 20 – Overpriced Chicken

Day 21 – Do You Know Who I Am?

Day 22 – Love Portal

Day 23 – Fearless Comfort

Day 24 – To Skim Or Not To Skim

Day 25 – Cheerful Obedience – Free Post Card Download

Day 26 – Quiver In God’s Presence

Day 27 – Obedience: The Lord Needs It

Day 28 – Refuse, Refocus, and Run

Day 29 – Get Serious and Stand

Day 30 – Take God At His Word

Day 31 – Blurry But Not Blind


Day 1 – The Performance Trap

I have struggled connecting my head to my heart. I had the head knowledge of Christ, but my greatest desire was obtaining His peace in my heart.

Busyness and familiarity had a way of masking this disconnect.

At an early age, life intensified for me when my dad was killed in a car wreck on our way home from a family vacation. God healed me physically and emotionally over time, but I endured a burn tragedy in my twenties, which compounded my fear and grief.

I grew weary of clinging to my beliefs and plugging into life. My faithful performance matched the highly-competitive, NFL football world God placed my husband in, but any behavior modifications I excelled in came up short.

My version of Christianity was not contagious to my overwhelmed friends, and my fruit was too sour to eat. Worry misplaced my joy, and the overflowing comfort I received from my family and husband was not enough.

But God.

God wanted more for me. Through God’s grace, studying His word, and mentors, I found freedom in Jesus Christ. God gently showed me my need to die to myself, and my new perspective pushed me to seek out what it looks like to abide in Christ.

I struggled with a stronghold of fear, but I am now plugged in to this life while living my life in Christ. God’s truth freed me up to love Him and others.

He can revive your weary mind and overwhelmed heart as well.

My prayer for these next 31 days is for God to lead us to His truth, to Himself. I will use my experiences to show us how to replace the loud and empty lies we often listen to instead of God’s promises. I pray God’s truth will lovingly lead us to repent of the rebellious independence I thought would keep me safe and guide us to a restful dependence on Him.

Are you tired of white-knuckling your faith?

Do you feel trapped in a performance tread-me-ill?

Dive into God’s word with me this month. Let’s discover what it looks like to abide in the only One who can set us free from a mind of worry and a life of striving as we stop saying “we can” and start saying “He can.”


  1. Alice Thompson

    It appears God is using you and your gift to share/help others. No greater calling. Way to go Kasey. I’m sure your dad and God both are saying…Well done good and faithful servant. Great correlations. Your dad and God. Your earthly father and your heavenly Father. No greater praise.

    • Thank you Mrs. Alice, I pray I can use what I have learned to encourage someone who needs it. I am definitely writing with a grateful heart.

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